Psychosexual Psychotherapy

Sex is full of lies. The body tries to tell the truth. But, it’s usually too battered with rules to be heard, and bound with pretences so it can hardly move. We cripple ourselves with lies.

More and more in my work I am encountering people with difficulties surrounding their sexuality, This can be a difficult and painful journey. Still today there are hang up’s and shame surrounding ones sexuality. Sexuality is one of the facets of self we keep most secret.

I believe there is a deep wound both men and women carry with them surrounding sexuality. Society still offers us the perfect vision of how we should be, whom we should love, and often this is at odd’s with how we really feel about ourselves. The internet and media culture offer us an unreal view of how we should we should act, perform and expect from sexual partners.

The shame and secrecy that a person carries regarding their sexuality can manifest in many ways, leading to depression, broken relationships, inappropriate sexual behaviours or simply the loss of self.

Counselling and Psychotherapy can assist you in exploring these issues in a safe and non-judgmental environment, allowing you the opportunity to explore your own thought and feelings, with a view to moving forward towards a more fulfilling and honest life.

For adolescents, understanding and coming to terms with their sexuality can be even more difficult. The pressure to conform can be debilitating and prevent the person from fully stepping into their own truth.

Often the fear of being honest about their sexuality can lead them to disown a natural part of themselves. This detachment can create traumatic psychic pain which may manifest in a number of unhealthy symptoms.

The shame and taboos surrounding sexuality often force a person to repress their latent desires and natural truth. This can lead to myriad problems such as sexual dysfunction, depression, withdrawal, inappropriate sexual behaviour, compulsions and avoidance of intimacy.

Understanding sexuality is a problem faced by many people, but one that is rarely shared or discussed. The repression of our innate self is an injustice to self. Space and time should be allowed for an honest and healthy exploration of self, allowing you to feel good about who you are, as you are.

There is no shame in whichever sexual orientation you experience. There is nothing wrong with you. Sexuality is innate and should not be hidden, least of all from self. Counselling and Psychotherapy will help you explore these deep rooted issues with a view to giving you the space, time and skills you need to feel free of the burden of shame or doubt. It can assist you to continue to find your path to leading a full and interesting life with intimate relationships.